OK, it is that time of
the year.
I knew it was “that
time of the year” via a Facebook discussion that was turned into a heated
argument by someone else related to a “memory” that Facebook put up for me that
had to do with happenings five years ago, when I had a letter printed in our
local Newsday newspaper related to anti-Semitism.
Without getting into
the lurid details of what happened when the letter was printed in Newsday, this
“memory” was posted, and someone decided to argue with me about Jewish
artists recording Christmas songs and doing nothing about Hanukkah, their own
end of the calendar year holiday.
Last week, another Facebook "friend" had the audacity to bring me up to date about how Hitler actually helped Germany, the atrocities he committed aside.
I kid you not.
So, with these people able to justify everything that they say--and make themselves into bigger asses with each justification--I felt it was time for my annual message to Jews and non-Jews alike, in particular to those who know myself and my family very well.
Last week, another Facebook "friend" had the audacity to bring me up to date about how Hitler actually helped Germany, the atrocities he committed aside.
I kid you not.
So, with these people able to justify everything that they say--and make themselves into bigger asses with each justification--I felt it was time for my annual message to Jews and non-Jews alike, in particular to those who know myself and my family very well.
As many of you know if
you regularly read this column, this is “that time of year” when I have to
remind people who know me—real friends and relatives and Facebook “friends”—that
I am Jewish, and thus, I do not want my family receiving any Christmas cards or
“Season’s Greetings” cards.
I simply find it
insulting that if you know I am Jewish, you cannot expend maybe less than an
iota of extra energy to move down the card aisle to the Hanukkah section, pick
an appropriate card, and send if off, much like you would a Christmas or
“Season’s Greetings” card.
Look, for business
purposes, a Christmas card is fine. If I get one from my doctor, the mail
deliverer, or the postman, that is fine. I have no problem with it. It is
simply a holiday greeting, for those people I might do business with, but they
really don't know me at all on a personal level.
But when such cards
come from a relative—many of whom are Jewish themselves—or from a close friend
who knows what my religion is, well, then I have an issue.
I would never, ever
send a Hanukkah card to anyone who was not Jewish. I would find doing that
highly insulting.
Well then, one who
sends a Christmas card to my family and I, yes, if you know our background, I
would find that equally insulting.
I am Jewish. My wife
is Jewish. My son and daughter are Jewish. If you know this, and still cannot
understand why sending us a Christmas or “Season’s Greetings” card is
insulting, then I really feel sorry for you.
Christmas is a
wonderful holiday, full of lights, merriment and good tidings for all.
However, it is not my
holiday. It is simply a day off for me, and to quiet some of you down, yes, I
have worked on Christmas day at a variety of places I have been employed at
during my career.
It has very little
meaning to me beyond the day off, and that is not to knock the holiday at all,
but again, I am Jewish, so what importance would Christmas have for me other
than a day off of work?
This year is a unique
year indeed. The first night of Hanukkah—which in recent years has fallen out
on Thanksgiving and into early December—actually falls out on Christmas Eve
this year, on the evening of December 24.
This intertwines the
two holidays even more than they normally are, but again, Hanukkah has nothing
to do with Christmas, and Christmas has nothing to do with Hanukkah, other than
being end of the calendar year celebrations.
And let’s keep it that
way.
Yes, the target is now
on my back, and I know some people won’t be too happy with what I said, but I
guess that is their problem, isn’t it?
You're a mean one, Mr. Grinch , you really are a heel ... So many people have stopped sending cards altogether, we communicate electronically now ...if someone goes to the trouble of sending you good wishes during the holiday season, the proper response is "thank you". If they bought a package of holiday cards and sent you one that said "seasons greetings" instead of "Merry Christmas" their efforts to address your special snowflake sensibilities should be acknowledged. Returning a card to the sender because it said "Seasons Greetings" instead of "Happy Hanukkah" is rude and obnoxious.
ReplyDeleteNo, it is not, in particular if you are very well known by that person. It is laziness and rudeness on their side, not mine. As I said, I understand that in certain circumstance, it is acceptable, but when a relative does it ... no, that shows complete insensitivity, in particular when it comes from someone who, in the past, has used "Jew" as a verb. Yes, read that and tell me who the insensitive one really is.
ReplyDeleteAnd I finally fixed the type. I have no idea why it wouldn't take the first time. But I didn't give up!
ReplyDeleteLarry, how many Chanukah, Christmas, and or seasons greetings cards do you send?
DeleteThat is an easy one to answer. We send out cards--Hanukkah and Christmas--to relatives and close friends. So all told, we probably send out at least about a dozen cards in total, I don't know what the split is between cards for one holiday or another.
ReplyDelete… but if I thought about it real hard, it is probably evenly split.
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