Going completely against what many people have said to me, i have decided to go to my high school reunion.
But I am going with a purpose.
Honestly, I reviewed the list of those who have already sent in their money for this event, and believe me, I wasn't floored.
Of the 70 or more people on this list, I would say that not a single one can I place by face after reading their names.
Nothing comes up in my memory, and I have a very good memory.
A couple of the names sound familiar, but without a yearbook--I think my ex-wife gobbled it up when she ransacked my house and left me all those years ago--I can't look anyone up.
So familiarity--and the need to meet up with people I haven't seen in 50 years and probably had absolutely no discourse with when we were all in Massapequa High School at the same time--does not exist.
The reason that I believe that this Class of 1975 graduate is going has to do with a Class of 2014 graduate that I know pretty well--
My son.
Yes he graduated the same high school as i did, but what he faced was way worse than what I faced, no matter how bad what i faced was.
Being a special needs kid from kindergarten all the way through 12th grade, he and others like him are looked at and handled differently, and even though a lot of times they are integrated in the overall student community, their experience is measurably different than almost all of their classmates.
And when he graduated high school, things got worse, in particular in the employment area.
And right now, he is having a really tough time finding a job, and it is because of his disability.
We have tried everything, groups that exist to help people like him don't, and I believe it is time to think outside the box.
I figure if I can go to this reunion, even if I get maybe even one or two people who can help a fellow alum, it will all be worth going to.
Maybe someone owns a business, has a child that owns a business, or knows someone who can point my son in the right direction.
Why not take a chance?
Look, as you well know, I know all about reunions, helping to carry out the 2014 Rochdale Village Reunion.
We had twice as many people as this one is having, and we worked around many obstacles to make it an overwhelming success.
If one of the attendees would have come up to me with a child in a similar situation, I would have had absolutely no problem with thst attendee passing around a few resumes--
And that is exactly what I plan to do at this reunion.
I have absolutely no memories to relive with these people--i already had my "Janis Joplin" moment late in my senior year--a situation where little old me stole our Senior Variety Show right from under others' feet--I am not there to see them; rather, to see what they can do for my son, and this way, my son and I can leave no stone unturned in our quest.
The money has to be in soon, so I plan on writing a check ASAP.
Look, if nothing works out, I can, once again, be the first one there and the first to leave.
But I do believe it is worth a shot.
Have a great weekend, and I will speak to you again on Monday.
P.S. Janis Joplin was a very unpopular girl at her Texas high school, actually being voted "The Ugliest Boy in Class."
Years later, about the time when she reached stardom, like her other classmates, she was invited to her high school reunion.
The reunion organizers were flabbergasted that she said she would be there, as she had become a star by that time in 1969 or so.
She did go to the reunion, but continued to be treated poorly by her now very jealous former classmates.
They still looked at her as the "frump" that they had decided she was all these years earlier, and she left the reunion seeing just how phony--and jealous--people were of her.
Whether any of this actually happened has morphed into an old wives' tale, but I do believe something did happen in one way or another.
My "Janis Joplin" moment was much more subtle.
At my class' Senior Variety Show, I outdid everyone that Friday night, breaking the then Guiness Book of World Records eating record of downing 23 donuts in 10 minutes.
My brief notoriety suddenly made me everyone's best friend, and on the following Monday, this guy that no one cared about for nearly four years became a school celebrity.
I signed lots of autographs, people who had never, ever spoken to me became my best buddies, and it gave me occasion to see just how phony the whole thing was.
After a short while, maybe by that Monday afternoon, I realized all the phoniness, and I just had to laugh it off.
My momentary notoriety basically served me perfectly, as it "gave the finger" to the school and how I was treated there for the entirety of my time in high school.
And, the fact of the matter was that someone in England actually topped my record the next day or so, so I never actually got into the record books.
But I had my "Janis Joplin" moment, and no one could ever take that moment away from me.
In fact, it is the only good moment that I had in my four years of high school.
So take that!
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